Monday, June 12, 2006

Fleet week in Portland

The Mr. and I decided a day on the town would be good for both of us. So to the Rose Festival in Portland, Or. it was. We both thought the carnival thing was not for us that day. But the Fleet was in for tours and this was the last day.

We waited in line for 2-1/2hrs, the first part being all right, But the last part was sun and 80ish with little no breeze. Babies were crying and the bigger kids were getting whinier, thirstier and hungrier, It was terrible for moms and dads that had kids. We at this moment were fortunate no to have any small ones.

Although, I was surprised to see not many parents brought umbrellas for shade like I used to do, And not many brought snacks and drinks, or even toys or colorbooks to occupy their minds. What's that about? I'd never have gotten away with that anywhere I took them. But then my kids were able to sit quietly and wait too.

So anyway, We did finally make it to the security area where everyone was checked out and your stuff x-rayed for security purposes and it was on to the Destroyer.

I have always wanted to do this, board the ships and meet the crew. The Mr. was totally awesomed out by the big guns and the mind boggling technology that each ship has.

Being able to see up to 250 miles away on radar or more was amazing to me let alone all they were not able to tell you. The soldier telling the stats of the ship told us that it was so specific it could track a bumble bee in a hay field 250 miles away. WOW! Imagine that.
This was the USS Preble DDG 88 A Destroyer.

We both enjoyed the tour and shook hands and thank our service men for being there and choosing to protect us. I even got to fraternize with a few of them.

(this is for the baby sister)

(See I found lots more fish in the sea or frogs to kiss or knights in shining armor and I know all the good ones aren't taken so keep looking sissy)

We also seen the H M C S Winnipeg but we ran out of time to board it. A Canadian Frigate would have been cool to see too! Besides our guys said they party on their ship. Jeannie this was for you my Canadian friend. I gave them a shout out for ya!

We did go on a Sternwheeler of some sort also, It had lots of memorabilia and museum-y type things aboard.

We posed in the steering cabin and I took a panoramic set of pictures from up there of the Willamette River and Portland's bridges.

Now for the benefit of The Celtic lady I searched to see if I could find the Pirate. I did see one pirate swash buckling his way down the boardwalk but he was not our Pirate, And to my disappointment there was no pirate ships to be found either. I think this one must woke up in the wrong place and tried wandering back to his ship and it was gone.
Speaking of people watching, The Mr. and I sat on a bench half exhausted, me with my head on his shoulder, content, watching families, couples, drunks, homeless people and some pretty strange looking people with really strange hairdos. We watched people meet and walk off together and people that didn't like each other, Doesn't it make you wonder if why you where there at that very moment was to witness just that. They say each person that crosses your path affects it in some way. Hmmmm, I wonder who's life I touched in a positive way today?

Saturday, June 10, 2006

Lifes up and downs and all arounds

If pictures are worth a thousand words what does this one tell you?
9 am
Yes, the proverbial roller coaster ride was what the day was like. The day started with the #2 Son calling to set a date with me for dinner with both Sons at a German restaurant in Clackamas, Or., Just north of me 15 mi. or so. I'm thinking this will be a nice place to talk and have dinner without blaring music or kids screaming. I'm excited he was making the effort and making it happen, What a guy! Although I know the potential to be sad could be there too.

About 9:30 or 10ish the baby Sis calls and needs my help. See after 8 or 9 years of her life she has finally had enough with her boyfriend. Oh and she has valid reasons for leaving and probably should have restarted her life years ago. We all stay in relationships longer than we sometimes should hoping things will get better. At some point we feel like the emotional basket is really empty and choose a new life over being unappreciated and used.
So I rush to her aid and we load a mere 2 truckloads of her things and leave peacefully. I wish I could have been more spiteful but I seen her hurting and I know it wouldn't have made her feel better. I will say he was a jerk to her though!
She told me of a new pair of cheap 10 dollar tennis shoes he paid for a week or so ago. Funny these are the exact same shoes she wore yesterday to do the walking into her new unfamiliar life and justly so. YaY!

Never stay with someone that won't participate with you in family functions or has no want to be around your family. I still have no idea how we offended this guy and made him not want anything to do with us.

We were always willing to welcome him into our lives and we were rejected again and again. Maybe he is lacking the family love gene and needs therapy, But it mostly told me he has some real skeletons in the closet and didn't want to get close to anyone and be forced to face it or have someone find out. Sad I don't see him changing anytime soon. Good luck to the woman he's seeing now, OH, I forgot there is no other woman, So he says. Maybe he's not lying...Maybe its a man? In today's world it totally could be.
I love my baby sister and I wish I could make her hurts go away, I want her to have the best that life can offer. But mostly, I want her to have an equally loving relationship with a guy that loves her as much as she's willing to love him. He's out there don't give up and keep your chin up. It's all uphill from here.

Anyway enough wasting time on him, This was a high point of my day I was retrieving my baby sister from a bad relationship.
Having a son move away on the same day the low.
Hence my roller coaster ride.

My 2 boys and I had a very nice dinner together in the restaurant, No kids crying and only soft polka type music and the occasional loud thump of a car on the freeway below. Both the boys are such gentlemen now and I beam with pride just being around them, Yet the youth peeks out from time to time and I still feel the need for moms love. I loved every minute with them and wouldn't have traded it for a million bucks. And I managed to not cry like a baby till later and now I'm done I hope.

I'm still trying to get a grasp on the move to Vegas and the need for a totally different life, But I wouldn't have let anyone stop me from making my choices and I'd never expect any less from my kids. He's looking for something and I guess he'll know when he finds it. I have the faith that my prayers for him will be answered and he'll be safe and find the answers he's looking for.

It was good to have my arms around the #1 son again too, I hate that he had to go home so soon. Thank you April for sharing him again, I miss you both.

My day ended with the Mr. coming home albeit his plane was late but worth the wait, he sensed my neediness and was there for me from the moment he seen me. He was just what I needed, I love him.

And today I'm drained, I napped and showered and dressed late. I needed the mental R&R....

Friday, June 09, 2006

A rough day ahead of me...

After hosting a going away dinner for the #2 son with family and extended family which was really nice and yet sad at the same time. I still find myself fighting my feelings about him going to do his own thing. You know the thing is he has not lived at home for many years now but has always been near for family dinners or just getting together on a spur of the moment.
I'll will miss that immensely.

The #1 son flies in today, but he'll be here for only a mere few hours to help the #2 son load up and then drive to Vegas together. I do get to spend part of the afternoon with the two of them. I will try to contain my tears and be the strong one but this is going to be tough.
The #1 son doesn't realize I go thru this when I see him too, Every time I find it sad to say see you next time and I Love You, never good-bye.
The #2 son seemed to make it a little easier to bear by being close to home. God I have great thoughtful and loving kids, I'm so thankful for that. I just wish it didn't hurt so much when they move on to their own lives, Because I want to be happy for them.

This is the furthest he has every been from home, and its not like going to his dads for the summer it's going to live there and then wherever life takes him from there. Someday maybe I'll have all the kids back in the same state again.

So I guess I'll just have to pull myself up by my boot straps and get on with the day, Will me strength to get thru this OK?
The only consolation to the day is that the Mr. will be coming home this evening and for that I'm thankful too. He's been gone since Monday and this time it's felt pretty long.
X's and O's

On a much lighter note...
This is my daughter and her hubby announcing a bouncing baby boy puppy, His name seems to be Bandit for the time being. He's a mutt. We are trying to figure out what he might be crossed with any thoughts on this?

Cute isn't he, They guess him at about 4 months and just a sweet disposition. He is a pound puppy rescue.

Tuesday, June 06, 2006

Ok back to business...

Memorial Day was the last post, OK, since then.

Well, the 1st was spent readying to go to Sonoma, Ca. again Busy, Busy, Busy. To all of you that have the fortune of knowing the Mr. you also know he can be a good delegator and unfortunately I can be the one that takes on the load. He doesn't pack himself to go on trips nor does he make sure that things are set up for the animals and the mail has been stopped.

He tends to over schedule himself up to the minute we leave and that leaves no time for him to prepare, A shower and shave and were gone literally. But somehow it always works out, Hmmmmm, I wonder how that happens?

The 2nd thru the 5th was spent in Sonoma, Ca. and this time it was sunny for the most part and warm, yay! We left home with the weather being a miserable dismal down pour and blustery winds to boot with the temps in the lower 60s. We arrive in California and it was a balmy 75 degrees.

This time while in California we said good bye to one her name was Ashley from Duluth, Minnesota. I prepared a going away dinner and we broke bread and had some laughs. Goodtimes! I'm sure they miss her already. we met some of the new staff at the barn where we shoe horses at and it was interesting. All of them foreigners and single, 1 girl from Germany (Katherine) and 2 girls from Holland (Loes(Pronounced:Lews) and Wendy).

I love getting to know different people from different countries, I found it fascinating to ask questions about the differences they have experienced since their arrival. Wendy found it really different to get used to saying anything more than hi in the grocery store. Instead we say Hi, How are you? She said it would throw her for a loop to stop and say I'm fine and then perpetuate the conversation and say how are you? Gee, I never think about that.

Or how we drive...Passing on all sides on the freeway. Katherine being from Germany is used to driving very fast like over 120 miles per hour here.
She said it's like driving in the slow lane all the time here. Gee and I thought California drivers drove like bats outta hell and they are not nearly as polite as Oregon. They are fast to me. We never went slower than 70 for the most part on the freeway.

As luck would have it, Saturday Katherine had a day off and we decided to go do something together. I was excited about this because this meant I didn't have to go do something alone. We ventured to San Rafael and did her errand and then set out to find a Tattoo parlor, So after a very long walk we find one and as luck would have it they did not have the item we needed, so then we were driven to another place (Blue Lotus Tattoo) thank heavens because my legs and feet are killing me by this time. We ask for a nose piercing Nothing big and noticeable, no rings or things like that, just a diamond very small. I have always wanted to do that.

Then Katherine decides she'd do it too...So I go first and she watches, It stings a little but no real pain. My eye waters involuntarily for a minute but after the sinus surgery I'd been through it was painless. Now I'm done and it's totally cute. It's her turn. She lays down and deep breathes to prepare and he proceeds with procedure and all she thinks about is the needle and that its gonna hurt. Her eye waters too but I think her frame of mind made it worst. Happy now that it was over and she totally liked hers too. Although she picked a bigger stone and hers was red.It matched her auburn hair. It was back to the car and only to find a parking ticket for 25.00 that I knew was going to be there because it took us so much time walking to the first place that was a few blocks turned into 2 miles.

Now back in the days of my youth if you did this sort of thing with a girl friend it meant a bond for life without a question, I hope this is the case here. she is a really great gal and fun to be around.

So then it's off to Sonoma and some shopping, Things are beautiful there and expensive! I found some marvelous foot creme for my aching feet and had lunch in a Chinese place, It was OK but not the best. We toured some fabulous homes in town although we didn't go in we did the drive by and drool thing.

We even thought maybe Kat could put on her best dress and walk up and down the street in hopes of finding a rich Mr. so she could just stay there and I could come to visit often. (joking of course)

Then it was go get pizza for the Mr. and the other 2 gals back at the estate and home. I think my feet and legs ached most of the night. We hot tubbed...just the girls. It was fun laughing and having some wine and listening to music, it felt even better than it sounds by the way.

Then on Sunday, The Mr. worked most of the day and I recuperated from the day before. We did go to dinner Sun. Evening at the Cafe LaHave, It was a quaint little joint and the food was good. You could see the chef and his helpers preparing your food in this little dinky kitchen hardly enough room for 3 people.

I had a chicken and pasta dish with sweet peas and the Mr. had a steak with scalloped potatoes and asparagus, Mmmmmm his was good too. We do this sharing thing so dinner is like a smorgasbord and if you hate what you ordered at least you don't starve.
Dessert, a Chocolate pudding type thingy Yum!...and the Mr. had Strawberry rubbarb al la mode, Not a favorite of mine so thank goodness for choices huh?

Monday, We went to San Francisco and checked it out a bit, First stop was the lookout far above the bay and when we get there it's mostly fog. Although it was somewhat disappointing because of the view or lack thereof. We stuck around and traveled up just a little to a further view point and the fog lifted a little.

Then onto the regular touristy destinations,

The Maritime Museum a ship tour and Ghiradelli Square. I bought two T-shirts at 16 bucks each and no they are not gold, but they are from the Chocolate factory. One says
"Dip me in chocolate and call me dessert"
and the other says
"Too much chocolate is never enough"
then a lunch of fish and chips and back to the freeways to the airport. Oh and I almost forgot The Mr. went thru a light on the way and it turned red part way thru and I think he'll be getting a ticket in the mail, I seen the flashes from the camera. Dammit anyway, But two others behind us will get it too.

Do you know how much the ticket is for that? Well, I'll tell you Ka-ching Ka-ching {{{$370.00}}}, What a rip. That and they had some of the lights covered so you didn't know which was yours to begin with.
The flight home was good and it was nice to be home once again in my own bed. Ahhhhhh....